Sometimes it's maddening to hear others say that someone else can't change or be forgiven.
"Well that's the way he/she has always been" some would say.
Or "What did you expect from him/her? That's how he/she is".
I don't believe that just because someone acts a certain way that they are doomed to act the same way the rest of their lives.
After all, our society trumpets change constantly.
- New Year's resolutions
- New relationships
- New workout fads
- New, new and more new
It's also true that sometimes people themselves don't want to change even if that change would be for their betterment.
The obvious example here is the substance abusers.
Now I am not going to say that it is wrong to occasionally have a drink. But there are those folks that feel far more "normal" with a buzz on then they do without it.
They think that they cannot operate fully - at their full potential - unless they are loaded up.
These people are an enigma to me.
I'm not judging anyone. But I lost another cousin just over a week ago to an OD.
If you asked his brother about the effects of drugs he would probably just shake his head. Truthfully, I have never know ANY good that came from using drugs and that includes MANY psychotropic drugs.
I was with a guy playing a game last night - the smartest man I know for his age and a dear friend - and he reminded me as he was taking his prescribed routine of meds that psychotic drugs directly affect one's mental health.
I have to go back to the standard when I hear folks say that people cannot change.
When the Pharisees were ready to stone the adulteress woman what did Jesus do? He said, "he who is without sin cast the 1st stone."
Translated - she's not perfect and neither are you.
There was another time that a woman came to a well to get water. The woman conversed with Jesus - probably about her problems in life - and he noted that she "had many husbands" due to her lifestyle.
But he did not condemn her. No he said "Go and sin no more."
It's not impossible to change. WE CAN DO IT IF WE WANT TO.
Now I went and we saw the movie the Magnificent Seven yesterday which I do recommend to you and there was a very timely quote in it.
"What we lost in the fire, we will find in the ashes.
Change is possible even probable, but only IF we decide do it.